Rejection and Depression?

[Naiwen]

Have you ever been depressed because of a romantic rejection from your crush/love interest? As an aro-ace, I'm the one who's causing heartbreak because I'm the one who is rejecting people (men and women, all genders, all sexual orientations and etc personally and from all walks and all ages of life, all cultural/religious backgrounds). Why, even a 48 year old man (15 years my senior) has cried when I have rejected his birthday gift because he'd sexually harass me, stalk me and obsess over me, asking me out obsessively and forcing me to go to his parties and etc. He hasn't even asked me to be his girlfriend, he's just assumed, because I have exchanged numbers with him in a group therapy, that I'm in a relationship with him. I'm also afraid to go to group therapies, because you Westerners fall in love way too easily and too quickly. I'm not a casual or spontaneous person at all in terms of relationship and I don't care for it for me personally at least anyways.

 

[Jason]

Of course I have, lol. It's the worst thing ever. It's as bad, maybe worse than actual pain. Anyway, I have also rejected women in the past, but not my wife. Well, I almost walked away from her a few times.

 

[Maddox]

I'm not the one losing for being rejected. It's the person missing out on all the sweetness I bear coming. I would glady walk away with my head held very high.

 

[Ezra]

Have you ever been depressed because of a romantic rejection from your crush/love interest? As an aro-ace, I'm the one who's causing heartbreak because I'm the one who is rejecting people (men and women, all genders, all sexual orientations and etc personally and from all walks and all ages of life, all cultural/religious backgrounds). Why, even a 48 year old man (15 years my senior) has cried when I have rejected his birthday gift because he'd sexually harass me, stalk me and obsess over me, asking me out obsessively and forcing me to go to his parties and etc. He hasn't even asked me to be his girlfriend, he's just assumed, because I have exchanged numbers with him in a group therapy, that I'm in a relationship with him. I'm also afraid to go to group therapies, because you Westerners fall in love way too easily and too quickly. I'm not a casual or spontaneous person at all in terms of relationship and I don't care for it for me personally at least anyways.

That sounds really exhausting and stressful. It’s not your fault people misread boundaries. You’re just being honest about yourself.

 

[Kennysplash]

Rejection is something we all must face as long as we are alive. I have lost count of how many times I’ve been rejected by someone, at job interviews and many others. We have to develop a thick skin for it.